Music listening behaviour and loud music throughout the whole house
I am a son living with my father.
Now my father is a serious audiophile, he likes to play his music loud. My room is on the top floor, in the attic, and my dad listens in the living room two floors below. Throughout the whole house and also the attic I hear his music in the background, especially bass notes and piano notes, trumpets etc.
As said my dad is a serious listener, he is constantly looking to upgrade something for his Naim set, trying to find differences in cable A compared with cable B. What he spends his money on is his problem, but I don't share his taste in music, and it is not fun to have to subject yourself for several hours a day to music that you (started to) dislike. It is hard to find a place in this house where you don't hear the music, it has become worse lately with a subwoofer. I used to listen sometimes to music myself 3 years ago, with some pc speakers but for the last years I haven't listened to my own music, I have lost joy in my own music and it just gives me bad associations. Well my mother doesn't seem to mind, she has her office at home though and usually puts the television on in the background of her office, not loud just normal, maybe to help her concentrate.
Now when I come downstairs to eat lunch or something, and my dad is listening to music, there is also a slight clash, he is grumpy to get interupted but I need to get lunch and sometimes I want to see the news on tv. Everything else I do on my own room, I don't watch movies or do any hobbies in the living room, only some watching news while having lunch and dinner. It's not like he doesn't have alot of time to listen to music, he works at home often aswell and spends atleast 2-4 hours a day listening. Sometimes when me or my mom come downstairs he sometimes mumbles that he can never listen, even though he has just spend one hour (or more) listening?
Ofcourse I have told him that I think he plays loud music, in which he responds, "Yes, sometimes I play loud!" We tried negotiating rules and most of the time during lunch he stops playing music, but that doesn't change the fact he still plays loud which you can hear everywhere in the house. The only option seems to move out when I can afford it...
I know I am just his son, and it is not my own house, but I also feel like he could maybe care a bit more about me, I feel he places himself above others including my mom and me, he even has said that he is "the captain of this ship" when trying to negotiate each other's lifestyles. I don't speak my mind quickly and it takes courage to negiotiate with my dad, but it just seems he places his own interests above others.
Does this music listening behaviour sound acceptable ? How does your girlfriend/wife who you live with accept your listening behaviour?