Same thing happened to me 10 years ago Davro, but she left me with the 3 kids at the time, she just left !! i was left in limbo just like yourself not knowing what the hell was going on, we met up had a chat & it was another bloke, a younger model ! It was gut wrenching at the time, awful.
It never feels like it at the time but you do move on, but how long it takes is down to you mate? Keep your chin up...
leave the drinks out..
unfort when relationships break down and its not your choice you're always the last to know and will prob never get a straight forward answer as to why because things like that are just far to hard to put in to words!
nothing worse than an empty house - especially when used to having ppl and pets around! just stick on some music and chill out if you can - avoid the mushy stuff! just try not to think to hard about it worrying about every little thing that may have gone wrong and what caused it and wait for her response
Thanks for everyones advice and sympathy. I know i just have to try and not think about anything. Hard tho. To try and keep my mind off it have been watching movies all day. Just watched the knowing. Pants film.
Perhaps I'm being harsh....but as far as I can tell, she hasn't lied yet. Give her the space and see what happens.
One way or another things will sort it-self out,you have just watched knowing,life aint that bad is it mate lol.good luck on thursday.ill be thinking of you.
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Amen brother. She already has new shoes, trust me.
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Am I the only one to think that part of the problem could be that one of the first places you turn to vent your frustrations is a hifi forum online?
Im sorry, i think you are all wonderful knowledgeable people and i wouldnt trust any other site with my electronic queries... but if a hifi forum is a place i turn to when my gf breaks up with me.. i have already identified a major problem!
A very valid point.
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Well to me it seems Davro is looking for an outlet. So whilst a HiFi forum may not be ideal, those of us who post on here are still human and have many various life experiences so if he feels it may help then why not??
Haha. Also very valid.
Sad news, fella.
Keep strong and keep your dignity. Don't beg, don't plead with her. Don't let her know your hurting. As hard as it may be, get rid of everything that reminds you of her, it'll help you through the grieving process more quickly. It worked for me. Three days of boo-ing like a baby, then right as rain!
You know yourself, as much as you love(d) her, she's not the only bird in the world. The next one will be younger, fitter and.... actually thats enough, just younger and fitter. I was going to say smarter. What was I thinking?!
That seems very harsh - you don't even know these people!
The owls are not what they seem...
If it is the end, don'r rush to be with someone just because you're a couple-y person. I know that can be hard, but I've seen that one go awry too many times.
Also, when you do go looking, don't do the whole pub/club thing if it doesn't appeal. Like someone said above, go to college or something, join some kind of club. Anything you think yo would enjoy that wouldnt be too male dominated.
FWIW, she may be having cold feet after being so gung ho about the whole marriage bit - its a big commitment. She may feel she said a bit too much too soon, and now she cant put it back in the box.