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ok i was going out with my ex for 3 years, then i broke it off because i wasn't sure she was what i wanted, but we remained very good friends, i'd often go to parties in her and her friends houses and get a taxi home after , and we spoke daily on the phone..

but at xmas i told her i wanted her back, this was 18 months after we'd split, she said her feelings weren't the same, so i hit the gym as a 20 stone baby Tongue , lost 64lbs and started dating other ladies (well one to be precise)

we had been talking all the time, and had a few drinks amongst friends a couple of times, but it was awkward, so last friday week i told her i couldn't come to a party she invited me to at the weekend as i had company Wink

she said that's fine and she would talk to me on sunday, but i told her i'd ring her, on monday, so on monday she rang me at 3pm, i didn't answer, she rang again at 6 and we spoke but she never asked me about my "company", so i never mentioned it.

now as it turned out i didn't have company, i cancelled, it wouldn't have been fair on the other girl because i was thinking about someone else, but my ex didn't know that Tongue

so last thursday she invited herself over to mine for a few beers, we had a good chat and a good drink, done a bit of dancing and had a little hugging and kissin  Smile

she left in a taxi and i was confused, but i figured it was just the beer, she just wanted to be friends and that's all.

but she appeared again on saturday night, and we done more of the same, she seemed very affectionate, and i asked her if she wanted to go out on sat night, she said yes, as friends, though her actions have been of more than friends Shock

what's going on here guys Smile is tommorow night the big night Cool

 

 

 

 

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Are you sure she's not just after your Hifi Max.Smile

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Men are from Mars and Women from Venus! Puzzled

I've been married to the same "old doll" for 23 years, and am really none the wiser!!

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She's playing you, mate. I'm sure she values you as a friend, but she's playing the old classic 'I don't want you, but I don't want you to be with anyone else' number. 

Time to move on, Maxxy, or your noggin's gonna get really fried. Anyway, mate, you don't want to tie yourself down yet. We've only just become slim, sexy beggars, after being the bloaters we were. You want to play the field a little first. I know I have beenSmile

 

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you might be right bretty, and if so plan b is ready to go, and she'll be going along with it...

about six weeks ago i told her we had to cease contact for a while so i could clear my head, but she text me after two weeks asking if i still had feelings for her, i rang her and she said she thought if i hadn't we could be friends as per usual, this was before she knew about me dating.

so either she's not revealing her feelings or she's messing about, i guess i'll soon know...

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Is there any chance of getting an ex tank mechanic and a Ford Focus water pump into this tale somewhere?

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Or, perhaps you both actually have feelings for one another that run very deep - she could be 'the one'? Meanwhile, she's playing it cool 'cos she doesn't want you to think she's at your beck 'n' call?

Time for a heart-to-heart chat?

Then again, maybe she's merely after a quick 'snuggle' with your newfound buffness? Tongue out

 

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maxflinn wrote:

ok i was going out with my ex for 3 years, then i broke it off because i wasn't sure she was what i wanted, but we remained very good friends, i'd often go to parties in her and her friends houses and get a taxi home after , and we spoke daily on the phone..

but at xmas i told her i wanted her back, this was 18 months after we'd split, she said her feelings weren't the same, so i hit the gym as a 20 stone baby Tongue , lost 64lbs and started dating other ladies (well one to be precise)

we had been talking all the time, and had a few drinks amongst friends a couple of times, but it was awkward, so last friday week i told her i couldn't come to a party she invited me to at the weekend as i had company Wink

she said that's fine and she would talk to me on sunday, but i told her i'd ring her, on monday, so on monday she rang me at 3pm, i didn't answer, she rang again at 6 and we spoke but she never asked me about my "company", so i never mentioned it.

now as it turned out i didn't have company, i cancelled, it wouldn't have been fair on the other girl because i was thinking about someone else, but my ex didn't know that Tongue

so last thursday she invited herself over to mine for a few beers, we had a good chat and a good drink, done a bit of dancing and had a little hugging and kissin  Smile

she left in a taxi and i was confused, but i figured it was just the beer, she just wanted to be friends and that's all.

but she appeared again on saturday night, and we done more of the same, she seemed very affectionate, and i asked her if she wanted to go out on sat night, she said yes, as friends, though her actions have been of more than friends Shock

what's going on here guys Smile is tommorow night the big night Cool

You're confused?

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6th.replicant wrote:

Or, perhaps you both actually have feelings for one another that run very deep - she could be 'the one'? Meanwhile, she's playing it cool 'cos she doesn't want you to think she's at your beck 'n' call?

Time for a heart-to-heart chat?

Then again, maybe she's merely after a quick 'snuggle' with your newfound buffness? Tongue out

 

that's kinda what i'm hoping Smile

 

that jd is funny Tongue

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Can you all stop quoting that picture from 6th replicant?  My wife saw me reading this thread just now and is beginning to wonder...

 

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maxflinn wrote:

ok i was going out with my ex for 3 years, then i broke it off because i wasn't sure she was what i wanted, but we remained very good friends, i'd often go to parties in her and her friends houses and get a taxi home after , and we spoke daily on the phone..

but at xmas i told her i wanted her back, this was 18 months after we'd split, she said her feelings weren't the same, so i hit the gym as a 20 stone baby Tongue , lost 64lbs and started dating other ladies (well one to be precise)

we had been talking all the time, and had a few drinks amongst friends a couple of times, but it was awkward, so last friday week i told her i couldn't come to a party she invited me to at the weekend as i had company Wink

she said that's fine and she would talk to me on sunday, but i told her i'd ring her, on monday, so on monday she rang me at 3pm, i didn't answer, she rang again at 6 and we spoke but she never asked me about my "company", so i never mentioned it.

now as it turned out i didn't have company, i cancelled, it wouldn't have been fair on the other girl because i was thinking about someone else, but my ex didn't know that Tongue

so last thursday she invited herself over to mine for a few beers, we had a good chat and a good drink, done a bit of dancing and had a little hugging and kissin  Smile

she left in a taxi and i was confused, but i figured it was just the beer, she just wanted to be friends and that's all.

but she appeared again on saturday night, and we done more of the same, she seemed very affectionate, and i asked her if she wanted to go out on sat night, she said yes, as friends, though her actions have been of more than friends Shock

what's going on here guys Smile is tommorow night the big night Cool

 

Okay this is what i think.

 

She still like's you, that's obvious, you have daily conversation's with her, go out partying with friend's and spend time in private. 

You've told her you want her back, that's great, but she will be wary because of what happened before, you finished it because you wasn't sure it's what you wanted. She's probably ecstatic you want her but she will have her guard up because she won't want to be dumped again. She won't let you just stroll into her intimate life just like that.

She wont bring up the date she thinks you had (yet), well, because she won't, it's that simple but when she does you have to be honest with her and tell her what happened, just like you told us.

You also need to be honest with yourself and that want her for the right reason's and if you do then it work out for you both.

Enjoy tomorrow night, you'll have a good time i'm sure.

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^^^^

A phrase that uses the words 'nail', 'hit' and 'head' springs to mind Wink

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maxflinn wrote:

ok i was going out with my ex for 3 years, then i broke it off because i wasn't sure she was what i wanted, but we remained very good friends, i'd often go to parties in her and her friends houses and get a taxi home after , and we spoke daily on the phone..

but at xmas i told her i wanted her back, this was 18 months after we'd split, she said her feelings weren't the same, so i hit the gym as a 20 stone baby Tongue , lost 64lbs and started dating other ladies (well one to be precise)

we had been talking all the time, and had a few drinks amongst friends a couple of times, but it was awkward, so last friday week i told her i couldn't come to a party she invited me to at the weekend as i had company Wink

she said that's fine and she would talk to me on sunday, but i told her i'd ring her, on monday, so on monday she rang me at 3pm, i didn't answer, she rang again at 6 and we spoke but she never asked me about my "company", so i never mentioned it.

now as it turned out i didn't have company, i cancelled, it wouldn't have been fair on the other girl because i was thinking about someone else, but my ex didn't know that Tongue

so last thursday she invited herself over to mine for a few beers, we had a good chat and a good drink, done a bit of dancing and had a little hugging and kissin  Smile

she left in a taxi and i was confused, but i figured it was just the beer, she just wanted to be friends and that's all.

but she appeared again on saturday night, and we done more of the same, she seemed very affectionate, and i asked her if she wanted to go out on sat night, she said yes, as friends, though her actions have been of more than friends Shock

what's going on here guys Smile is tommorow night the big night Cool

 

Okay this is what i think.

 

She still like's you, that's obvious, you have daily conversation's with her, go out partying with friend's and spend time in private. 

You've told her you want her back, that's great, but she will be wary because of what happened before, you finished it because you wasn't sure it's what you wanted. She's probably ecstatic you want her but she will have her guard up because she won't want to be dumped again. She won't let you just stroll into her intimate life just like that.

She wont bring up the date she thinks you had (yet), well, because she won't, it's that simple but when she does you have to be honest with her and tell her what happened, just like you told us.

You also need to be honest with yourself and that want her for the right reason's and if you do then it work out for you both.

Enjoy tomorrow night, you'll have a good time i'm sure.

cheers shooter, she knows i didn't eventually have company, i told her, and i told her i was sorry that i hurt her when we split.

i'm trying to be cool with everything but on the inside i'm kinda going carazy Smile it's all good though...

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maxflinn wrote:

shooter69 wrote:

maxflinn wrote:

ok i was going out with my ex for 3 years, then i broke it off because i wasn't sure she was what i wanted, but we remained very good friends, i'd often go to parties in her and her friends houses and get a taxi home after , and we spoke daily on the phone..

but at xmas i told her i wanted her back, this was 18 months after we'd split, she said her feelings weren't the same, so i hit the gym as a 20 stone baby Tongue , lost 64lbs and started dating other ladies (well one to be precise)

we had been talking all the time, and had a few drinks amongst friends a couple of times, but it was awkward, so last friday week i told her i couldn't come to a party she invited me to at the weekend as i had company Wink

she said that's fine and she would talk to me on sunday, but i told her i'd ring her, on monday, so on monday she rang me at 3pm, i didn't answer, she rang again at 6 and we spoke but she never asked me about my "company", so i never mentioned it.

now as it turned out i didn't have company, i cancelled, it wouldn't have been fair on the other girl because i was thinking about someone else, but my ex didn't know that Tongue

so last thursday she invited herself over to mine for a few beers, we had a good chat and a good drink, done a bit of dancing and had a little hugging and kissin  Smile

she left in a taxi and i was confused, but i figured it was just the beer, she just wanted to be friends and that's all.

but she appeared again on saturday night, and we done more of the same, she seemed very affectionate, and i asked her if she wanted to go out on sat night, she said yes, as friends, though her actions have been of more than friends Shock

what's going on here guys Smile is tommorow night the big night Cool

 

Okay this is what i think.

 

She still like's you, that's obvious, you have daily conversation's with her, go out partying with friend's and spend time in private. 

You've told her you want her back, that's great, but she will be wary because of what happened before, you finished it because you wasn't sure it's what you wanted. She's probably ecstatic you want her but she will have her guard up because she won't want to be dumped again. She won't let you just stroll into her intimate life just like that.

She wont bring up the date she thinks you had (yet), well, because she won't, it's that simple but when she does you have to be honest with her and tell her what happened, just like you told us.

You also need to be honest with yourself and that want her for the right reason's and if you do then it work out for you both.

Enjoy tomorrow night, you'll have a good time i'm sure.

cheers shooter, she knows i didn't eventually have company, i told her, and i told her i was sorry that i hurt her when we split.

i'm trying to be cool with everything but on the inside i'm kinda going carazy Smile it's all good though...

Yep you got it bad!

Take your time and enjoy yourself's and everything will fall into place.

Cool and the gang!